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There is One Type of Advice that I Hate. This Is It
Listen first, talk after
“Right action is better than knowledge; but in order to do what is right, we must know what is right.”
— Charlemagne
Most people love to give advice. They love when someone asks for their opinion. And even people who don’t give good advice still love to give it.
But there is one thing that most people do not do before they give advice.
It is subtle. Most of us do not notice it, but it happens more often than not.
I know I do fail to do it, too. But I am learning to get better.
And after someone points this out to you, you will start to notice it almost everywhere.
There is one type of advice that I hate. And this is it.
Confronting a Friend
Years ago, I was working out with a friend in my basement. During the workout, I experienced some pain in my hip. This was not unusual at all, since I have had this exact hip pain since I was 15 years old.
Before I said much about the pain and how it affected my workout, my friend started to give me advice about how I could “fix” my particular problem.